It’s that time of year again…all of the talk, the commercials, the movies on television…and every shelf in almost any store is stuffed full of Valentine’s Day gifts, cards and candy. There’s love in the air! It’s terrific….for those in love, and those with sweethearts. But, What’s a single girl to do?
I have to be honest enough to say that there have been years when I wanted to roll up in a fetal position in the corner and pretend that I wasn’t feeling lonely or left out of the romantic stuff. BUT, that wasn’t a positive way to face this season…and it tended to make me feel bad about being single…not being in love. It was not a happy place to be. I didn’t like it!
Hanging out Single!
BUT…What’s a single girl to do? Plenty!!
We single girls could offer to babysit for a couple that needs a night of romantic love out together – babysitting is expensive so getting a free sitter could mean a young couple on a tight budget can actually have a nice dinner out! We could offer to work an evening shift for someone who has a sweetheart and would like to have a night off to spend time with their loved one, it would be a gift for them and we’d have something to occupy our evening too!
Maybe we could spend some time with other singles, find a fun restaurant to hang out with friends…or go to a bowling alley with a group of singles. It’s not dating, just friends enjoying the time together…maybe take a page from the Christmas gift giving…draw names among the group and bring a Valentine’s Day gift for that person.
What’s a single girl to do? What about visiting someone who is alone too…someone in a nursing home, or group home, who would be alone without a visit from someone who cares about them on Valentines Day.
Instead of worrying about what we aren’t getting from that special sweetheart, we could send a balloon or a little teddy bear to someone else! I found that when I stopped thinking about what I didn’t get or have in the way of romance, and began to find ways to show love to others who really need that touch I was happier! I found that reaching out made me feel love in a more fulfilling way…and the joy on someone else’s face when they know that someone thought of them on this special day was the best ever!
It doesn’t change the fact that I am single and unattached. It doesn’t mean I don’t notice that I don’t have a sweetheart to send me flowers…but it does change the way I feel and the way I look at this special day. I can enjoy the love others have found without being all about ME!
So, What’s a single girl to do? Plenty – for others!
February 9th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
Susan,
Before I got married, I took myself out, or another sister who was single. I bought myself chocolates, rented a great movie, that a guy wouldn’t like and enjoyed my singledom. You are beautifully created and God will bring you the mate you need on His time clock. Don’t forget in the mean time put yourself out there.
February 9th, 2010 at 4:43 pm
Great way to look at the day. All of us have a special someone to love us that is our Lord no other love comes close to that.
It took me 45 years for the Lord to send me my soulmate. It was worth the wait. I found that all the partners I found on my own were totally wrong for me. When I gave up God sit him in my lap.
February 10th, 2010 at 5:53 pm
LOVE ISNT JUST ABOUT THE COUPLE, LOVE CAN BE SHARED B/N FAMILY AND FRIENDS I HAVE A FIANCEE AND WE HAVE BEEN DATING FOR FOUR YEARS BUT THREE OF THOSE YEARS WE HAVE GONE OUT WITH MY FAMILY FOR DINNER FOR US ITS A DAY TO SHARE OUR LOVE WITH ALL THE PEOPLE WHO SORROUND US. GOD LOVE US AND WE MUST SHARE THAT LOVE WITH EVERYBODY ELSE. I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!
February 12th, 2010 at 2:27 pm
Thank you Susan!!!!
For your approche and attitude regarding this day, I admire that in you!
I am too a single parent. My kids are little and while we were at the store buying v-cards and flowers for their teachers and friends… I just wanted to run out of that section……..It was painful to see others looking for something for their Special Someone!!!!!!
To be honest it hurt more when my kids didn’t even think of me as their friend… So there I was feeling sorry for myself, Ignored, sad and jealous. Then it hit me! I realize that I WAS DOING THE SAME TO MY BEST FRIEND, my own father & creator!!!!!
oh Lord, How selfish can I be? I am so wrong!
Here I am just giving my time (and $$$) But sure I forgot that You love me so much that you gave your only son for me, you give me life, hope, love, food, comfort, trust, energy and confidence. You are always there to help me, picking up the pieces when I’m down, accept me everytime no matter what, and yet I never consider you my friend!
Susan, I am so ashame of myself, that the only thing I could do was to ask for forgiveness to my BEST FRIEND. The Lord of all creation… The creator of FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE!
From that moment I began to enjoy and love that persons that I was with, including Him. And my heart was at peace.
Have a happy Valentines!
Blessings, from a single girl to another.
February 25th, 2010 at 12:33 pm
Susan,
I feel like I know you beacause I listen to you each morning. My Daghter and I got the opportunity to see you a couple of years ago @ Copperfield Church! You were a hoot and what a beautiful singing voice you have!! I know you are ill right now. Please know that you are in my prayers. Get well soon!!
Many blessing,
Dona
February 26th, 2010 at 7:49 am
You know I understand; Valentine’s Day is also my B.D., and I’ve been a single mom since 1999; and it can be very difficult to see others happy in love. But you’re very correct in what you’re saying here. Jesus has always been there for me, no matter what! I really love and appreciate this radio station and what they do for people like us who need to be encouraged and lifted up. Thanks guys!