On March 5, 2010
Monday we’re talking about a new relationship trend…and we want to know if you have ever done this…would you, could you….should you? People are breaking up by text message or email. Some people say they’ve even been fired by text. What do you think?
March 5th, 2010 at 9:59 am
Not such a good idea. We have lost a lot of our ‘face to face’ relationships due to technology and it has caused us to loose compassion. When you don’t have to look into some-one’s eyes to see the pain that you are bestowing upon them you are less compassionate! Let’s get back ‘face to face’ America!
_Monica Landsman. Livingston,TX
March 5th, 2010 at 10:02 am
Weeeeell, I guess I could say I would. I am not a confrontational person, and I don’t like to “know” that people are upset with me, so to avoid that I can see myself breaking up with someone via text message or email, and then I would avoid that person like the plague only so I can’t see how bad I hurt them. Yes, that is the cowards way out and I am not saying it’s right, but when I am face to face my tongue gets twisted so I don’t speak well, but I love to write and can express my feelings so much better in writing. The down side of that though is that someone could take your emotions the wrong way from the way you meant them. In person is the much better way though – and that is God’s way when done in love.
March 5th, 2010 at 10:04 am
I’m a very black or white kind of person. I believe something is either right…..or it’s wrong. No gray areas for me. In my opinion, this is WRONG! So of course, I’ve never done it, fortunately, I’ve never had it done. Although, I will add, that I was sent a break up via email, which is in my opinion, is just as bad, as sending a text. This is very cowardly.
Your sister in Christ,
Sandy
March 5th, 2010 at 11:14 am
This is another example of how good things can go bad. I think technology is good, but is too much of it a bad thing? Text messaging, Facebook, and other sites like it, are allowing us to become less relational. I moved to Houston two years ago and still don’t have that many close friends, so I network on Facebook a lot, but it never replaces that intimacy and closeness of an actual person. I think it allows for us to get close, but not too close, and thus eliminates the importance of a friendship and/or relationship. And, as in the case of breaking up via text message, it allows us to escape those feelings that go along with it.
March 5th, 2010 at 11:25 am
I have been dumped by someone via email! It really hurt. However, the Lord has sent me a great friend to enhance my life. He’s a good Christian man and much better than the fool who sent me the email! God takes very good care of His own. I HAVE requested that a certain budding relationship take the high road via instant message. The person never spoke to me again, so I guess God wasn’t in that person’s life. God has shown me the way he wants me to go, so, everything else no longer matters!
March 5th, 2010 at 1:17 pm
I have broken up with a boyfriend by text before… That being said I dont think it is right. It was because I knew I didn’t have a good enough reason to tell him face to face. I felt horrible afterwards and knew I had made a mistake. Thankfully, a year and a half later, God softened his heart and he forgave me. We have been married for four years now and have two beautiful babies. I especially think it is wrong to fire someone by e-mail or text!!! The computer has eliminated all face time between co-workers. My old boss asked that I not leave my desk to ask people questions but to e-mail them… even if they were in the next office. That’s how I knew I didnt want to work there.
March 6th, 2010 at 9:26 am
This sadens my heart. It seems to me to be another example of how the human race is becoming desensitized to human emotion. Just send them a note and that way we won’t have to see the hurt on their faces.
March 6th, 2010 at 9:43 pm
I would not…could not in a text. Not being fired nor being retired. Even if vexed and someone was next…
All kidding aside – I’ve said all along that texting and email take out or (at least) limit the level of personal involvement and/or commitment to the person on the receiving end. But to not have the decency, the respect and the maturity to sit down and face the person… that’s game-playing and gutless on a whole new level. They may try to justify it by saying it’s easier on the person who is getting axed (relationship or career), but the Truth is, it’a only easier for the one who is doing it. It’s selfish AND cowardly…(This is where you say, “Gee, Andrea – don’t hold back. Tell me how you REALLY feel…”)
This is going to make me sound out-dated and old, but I think many of our younger people have no idea how to socially interact on a mature level – with regard to being conscious of another’s feelings or emotions – because they’ve played video games most of their lives where the consequences (of hurting another or aggressively winning [and gloating]) are not reality.
March 7th, 2010 at 6:03 pm
Wow! Mike & Susan, The 2 of you make a wonderful team in the mornings. I listen to the 2 of you when I am geting ready for school.
March 9th, 2010 at 8:52 pm
I don’t think this is exactly the place to post this, but I’m not sure where else to post it. You took my comments on air this morning about small businesses giving breaks to people for their birthdays. I cannot tell you what a HUGE blessing that was to me. I have been trying to get my photography business going for 5 years. For 4 of those years I was trying to do it all on my own. On February 5, 2010 I publically dedicated the business, and all we photograph, to the glory of God. Since then things have been AMAZING! I couldn’t have dreamed, in my wildest dreams, of being on air with my favorite radio station talking about my small business. Our motto at JME Portraits is “Capturing the Moments that Matter” and let me tell you, today was a HUGE moment that mattered! Thank you for capturing it with your medium!! ;-)
Thank you so much Mike, Susan and all the volunteers at KSBJ!!
Jamie
March 10th, 2010 at 10:27 am
I don’t know. My ex boyfriend broke up with me through a text message. I guess you could say that he was avoiding confrontation. I have done it as well. But you know saying I break up with you is very hard to do whether your breaking up with someone or they are breaking up with you. In order to make it easier you use technology to send and receive messages. But either in person or through text it still hurts the same.
March 16th, 2010 at 9:18 am
At first I thought, “how horrible!” But then what is the difference between a text message or e-mail, and a “Dear John” letter? “Dear John” letters have been written FOREVER. It all boils down to people have difficulty hurting peoples feelings in person.