It’s such a cringe-worthy question. There was the time a well-meaning woman at church wanted to pray for me, but her prayer was so loud and so long, I felt desperate. “Please Lord, bring Jen a husband!” (I’m not one to turn down prayer, but not every prayer needs to be broadcast to all passers by!) There was the time I marked ‘single’ at the doctor’s office, and the nurse proceeded to grill me as to why. There’ve been other times I’ve confidently replied with 1 Corinthians 7:8 “I say to the unmarried and to widows: It is good for them if they remain as I am.” I wish I’d started using that line sooner (you’re welcome if it helps you!).

One of my friends has a line, “Dating can be a good time or a good story.” I’ve been on dates where I wish I would’ve stayed home because I would’ve had more fun. I’ve prayed. My friends have prayed. I’ve read books. I’ve watched seminars and sermons. My grandma even encouraged me to give online dating a try (though I’m still not ready for it!). When things happen easily for others, it’s reasonable to wonder why isn’t this easy for me?

Life tends to make more sense in the rearview mirror. Maybe someday, this will be one of those things. Until then, I lean on God’s character. He doesn’t waste time or experiences, and I don’t want to either. I hope my conversation with Tara Leigh Cobble encourages you to keep praying and asking God for the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4). And, just because your life doesn’t look the way someone else thinks it should, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong. Maybe you’re right where God wants you.